Ask Cass 2/7/24

Cassidy Kenney 

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2/7/2024

How do I tell my roommate I want other friends without making things awkward?

Living situations can always be difficult when going to college. Whether you were friends with them before or you chose a random roommate, nobody can hang out with one person every second of their life without going crazy. It’s okay to branch out and meet new people without having to be around your roommate all the time. 

It is going to be awkward no matter what but the conversation still needs to happen. It also doesn’t need to be a formal sit-down, it can be as simple as telling them, “Hey, I’m gonna go out for a little with so and so I’ll see you later.” 

If that doesn’t work try telling them directly that you want to hang out with new people for the time being. If they start taking it personally, let them know you appreciate their friendship and you love being roommates. You just wanted to branch out a little bit because that is what college is all about. 

What do I do when my best friend and I like the same guy?

Probably the most awkward situation to have with a friend. It can definitely be hard especially if they were the one who liked them first. No matter the situation, no guy is worth fighting over and getting in the middle of a friendship. 

If you do see a future with this guy then you need to have a conversation with your friend. The last thing you want to do is see someone behind your friend’s back. That never ends well.

If it’s your friend who liked the guy first and you started to catch feelings you have to tell them how you feel. It really is better to be honest in the long run to avoid any future problems.

But if the guy is also entertaining both of you, he’s not worth it at all. 

What do you do when you’re in a funk with no motivation to do anything?

We all get in funks, especially during the winter but you can’t let it stop you. Taking a day to yourself to evaluate and reassess is never a bad thing. 

You have to remember that a funk is just temporary. You won’t feel that way your whole life. 

Try finding one day a week for yourself and doing your favorite things. This is so the stress doesn’t fully overwhelm you throughout the week and builds up. I found that getting a job helped me stay out of the funk state. We all know how unmotivating it is to just go to class but a job will help you stay focused and on track. Nobody likes being broke so going to your work at least twice a week definitely helps you stay motivated. 

How do I handle hanxiety?

For those who don’t know what the term is, hangxiety consists of being hungover while having anxiety. This phenomenon usually occurs when you drink too much and don’t remember what went on or sometimes even worse is when you do remember and you’re embarrassed. 

I have conducted my fair share of very regretful drinking nights over my three years at Plym. The first thing I do is talk to my friends and find out what had happened to evaluate the situation. I always feel that is better to know, no matter how embarrassing it may be.

Keep in mind, that no one probably remembers or cares. Being in your 20s is about making mistakes and learning from them so if you’re worried about anything you did in front of someone, they have probably done the same thing if not worse. 

I promise you an embarrassing thing you did one night will not follow you for the rest of your life. 

How do I balance my at-home friendships now that I’ve started college?

Weekly Facetime sessions and texting regularly will always help but it’s okay to forget to talk sometimes. My friends and I from home sometimes go weeks without talking and it doesn’t mean we aren’t close anymore, just that we’ll catch up another time. It is perfectly normal to go an excessive amount of time without talking to your at-home friends and still be as close as you were before you left for school. 

Don’t get too upset too if they forget to answer your occasional texts or Factimes they’re just busy. Sometimes the holiday vacation debriefs are the best anyway.

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