Ask Cass: Bad hookups, hard drugs, and dudes who just can’t take a hint

Cassidy Kenney 

She/Her

Columnist

2/21/2024

This girl ruined my relationship. How do I effectively ruin her life?

This is such a hard answer. Having a third party come in and ruin a relationship is extremely hard. I would love to tell you what I was thinking when the same thing happened to me, but honestly, it’s not worth it. 

What I’m gonna say probably won’t be what you want to hear but, if she was able to ruin your relationship, it was for the best. Your relationship should be strong enough that anything this girl did wouldn’t affect you or your partner. It’s easier to hate the girl than blame your guy but both parties obviously played a part. You don’t have to like her but taking your anger out on her when he had the same involvement as well isn’t the best solution. 

Karma’s a bitch and it’ll bite them in the ass eventually.

My boyfriend cheated on me, how do I make it so no girl on this campus will fuck him?

The hard truth is if he wants to do it he’s going to. Men usually handle breakups way differently than girls so it can be super frustrating. Either he’s going to try to make you jealous by going after all these girls or he’s doing it because he’s freshly single and doesn’t care. Either way, he cheated on you and that’s not someone you should want to be with. 

Honestly wish these girls luck because if he’s going to cheat on you, no doubt he’s gonna do it to some other girl. Let him mess up his life and get a shitty reputation because you should thank god it’s not your problem anymore. The best thing to do is go out and show him what he missed out on. I’ve learned handling these types of things maturely will get to them more than if you were petty and handled it the way you intended. 

I accidentally hooked up with a meth head and now he wants me to try meth. Should I? 

Absolutely not. There are so many reasons why you should not start trying meth. 

If you find yourself in this situation, no judgment but maybe start raising your standards a little.

 If you’re just looking for a hookup, at least get to know the person before you even sleep with them so you don’t catch yourself in a situation like this ever again or worse. Flings can be tricky because hookup culture is so insanely normalized in our generation but it is always important to get to know the person before anything happens. 

I hooked up with someone who lives on my floor and now I can’t avoid them. What should I do? 

Situations like that are so painfully awkward, especially if you do not want to go further than a one-night stand. If you find yourself running into them more than you should, change up your schedule. It’s going to be annoying at first but if you really don’t want to run into them you don’t have to. Either start leaving for class a little earlier than you would to avoid them or walk out of your room with headphones and pray they’re not there.

After a while, they’re going to get the hint and go bother someone else.